The Power of Self Assessment

Main Message: You can change the direction of your life by first taking a moment to check in with yourself and reflect on the ways in which you are showing up, recognizing if your actions and behaviors align with where you want to be. 

AFFIRMATION: I have the power to assess and change my life

In a world where stillness is in short supply, carving out moments for self reflection can be a powerful tool. Prioritizing moments of sacred pause for ourselves creates opportunity to make emotional and behavioral adjustments before continuing forward and blazing on with behaviors that no longer serve our highest Self. We can choose to appreciate old behavior patterns for getting us this far, thank them for their protection and grace along the way, and graciously leave them in a closed chapter before putting one foot in front of the other and moving the hell on. 

I recognized the importance of self assessment in my own life as I sat in the discomfort of reflection after a painful heartbreak. Sitting with and honestly acknowledging the part I played in the situation challenged me to remove false ideals of blame and instead create a space for open and honest conversation. Even though I did not like many of the actions, behaviors, and thoughts that came up as I looked back on how I showed up, making note of these shortcomings created an opportunity for change. Instead of beating myself up for having such thoughts or behaving in unhealthy ways, I instead took a moment to understand the load I was carrying at the time. I was able to give myself compassion because I understood that I was operating within a vastly different mental framework than the one I now have the awareness of. This experience humbled me as it reminded me that I too still have more growing to do but it is okay, because I can decide to either remain the same or grow through.

I chose to grow through.

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As I reflected, I wrote out my answers, sat with them, accepted them as experience, and let them go, releasing their energy back to the core of Mama Earth. At that moment, my energy changed. Something in me shifted. Has that ever happened to any of you? Where in a single moment, an instant really, all of your mistakes and wrongdoings flashed before your eyes as if you were experiencing one of the most intense moments of hindsight ever. Everything comes to you so clearly now that the chapter is closed and you find yourself on the other side of reflection. If you have shared a similar experience then you know just how challenging and emotionally and energetically draining this process can be. 

When I was done I felt light and free yet raw. Torn open from the inside out of my own doing. Sitting in this vulnerable exposed place I realized that although this moment was uncomfortable to experience as I was seeing my shortcomings head on, no filter, I realized the power that such self acknowledgement holds. I realized that now that I recognize and collect the information regarding my past actions, I can now transmute that knowledge into an actionable plan to shift how I show up in the future. I was able to accept that the past will remain where it is, however, with some self correction, I can navigate the complexities of the season ahead with much more clarity, understanding, and grace.

Transition pushes us into growth whether we are ready for it or not; most times I personally have not been ready. Lately though, I have found myself wading in joyfully expectant waters of growth and change. As I navigate forward I have stumbled upon some challenging yet necessary moments of self reflection. In these moments I allowed myself to stop. To sit and invite in a moment of stillness and quiet introspective reflection. The longer I sat the more realizations came to me. Flashback from the season past, I was able to see and recognize so clearly all of the times I showed up to spaces, places, and situations as less than myself. It was from this place that I created this self assessment questionnaire to help other people like you experience the freedom that self assessing gifted me. 

If you decide to give this a try, and I mean truly give it a try not just download it and let it decay in the liminal space of your device, but to read the questions, sit with them, let the answers come to you calmly as they wash over you gently like a wave, I truly believe you will find the clarity, freedom, and peace you need in order to move on to the next chapter of your life. Perhaps even closing the one behind with dignity, possibly a few tears, and an abundance of self love and grace. 

May you enjoy the ride!

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May you go in Peace, flow in Love, and create the world you wish to THRIVE in